Reduce conflicts and reduce stress

Conflict is defined, according to dictionary.com, as "to come to a collision or disagreement; be contradictory; at variance, or opposition; to clash".

Conflict is something that we meet, on a daily basis. We disagree with others. We contradict others, or even ourselves at times. We encounter opposition. This is something that we, as human beings, must meet, or clash, head on in order to live our everyday lives.

But what can we do when there is too much conflict in our lives, causing too much stress? 
Try this - LISTEN!

Try listening to the person or thing you are in conflict with. There is a common technique called the 90-10 technique. It involves listening 90 percent of the time to WHAT the conflict is or WHO the conflict is with. You are only able to speak 10 percent of the time.

The general thought around this technique is to allow yourself to fully grasp the conflict and prepare for a response. It allows you to calm yourself down before reacting to the conflict in a destructive manner. 
This also allows you to reduce your own stress level and is a technique you can use when you encounter a stressful event in your life.

Listen - Listen some more - Then speak. AFTER you've given it some thought.

Some of techniques include: 

1. Focus on WHAT is said and not how it is said to you. Commonly, we disagree with the "delivery" of a message, rather than the actual message.
2. BITE YOUR TONGUE....for now. LISTEN to what's being said!! Formulate a response before responding. This is usually the hardest thing to do!
3. Do not respond to emotional words - Do not respond with emotional words.
4. Listen some more - do not interrupt!
5. Recognize the other person in conflict - is in conflict as well! Be the better person and respond when it's your time.

So, guys out there.. let's try this on.. We really hope this will help you to reduce your conflict between your social group.